May 23, 2011
Adoptees are Commodities
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Why is it legal for human beings to be the commodity in a "family building" business of supply & demand? Why is it legal for adoption "professionals" and the general public to "advertise" or "market" for human beings on the internet or in general media? (Dear Birthmother letters, "profiles", etc.)
Think about it. The intentional solicitation of babies and children is not ethical. The money (billions per year) involved in the adoption "process" sets the entire "system" up for corruption. Someone is profiting. Why would our society rejoice in making MORE children "available" for adoption, rather than work to prevent its need?
As an adult adoptee it truly feels like we are simply commodities hastened to fill the needs of those who want to build a family, instead of our feelings and rights being respected, as those who lose our original identities, names, mothers, families, heritage, and place. The "closed records" concept is a violation of all that we are as human beings.
The movie "The Truman Show" is not a fantasy thriller, it is a true depiction of the lives of adoptees everywhere. He wakes up one day to find out the life he is living is a fabricated set-up, with actors and players, and he is the only one who was not aware or given the choice to be a part of the "set".
Adopted children have to adjust in order to survive. But once they become adults, the only way they can truly embrace their lives, their identities, their families - the only way they can truly love - is to become real. And unless they can know, grieve, exist, and truly produce in their God-given identity on this earth - they live forever frozen in a time warp of man-made reality without the freedom of existing in their own skin and humanness.
Adult adoptees - the ones no one wants to believe - are the true voices in adoption. Although "sealed records" in adoption attempts to silence us as "perpetual children" under the law, no amended birth certificate can erase truth.
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