November 7, 2010
The Truman Show or Adoptee Island?
I saw this movie several years ago before I realized the impact adoption had on my life. If that could be imagined. The scene about him being "the first baby legally adopted by a corporation" just flew right by me without notice...I do have to admit, though, that the movie creeped me out in a weird way, a way in which I just couldn't put my finger on...but thought about for days.
Well, I happened to be flipping channels today and came across it again...only got to watch the last hour, but was completely mortified and intrigued. This is THE movie of the adoptee.
Truman had to WAKE UP just like every adopted individual and realize that there was more to his life, identity, and world than just his "role". Adoptee's very birth certificates are sealed and amended to create an entire new role, identity and cast for our lives. We are expected to live by that man-made role and told (just like Truman) that it is BEST for us, so not to rock the boat...just what he did.
It feels like the monumental struggle of our lives to cross over that bridge (of truth) and face the raging ocean head on, to freedom...to wake up & find that all we thought was real, isn't...that we are so much more than our orchestrated existence in our adopted role...
When Truman hit the "horizon" with a thud...my heart ached. Seeing his complete despair and hopelessness over being held "in the dark" for so long, regarding his entire identity and reality, was heart-breaking.
I think every adoptee eventually hits that same wall. We have to courageously climb those steps into the unknown and confront the corporation...adoption...to somehow find our true identity, grief, and integration into the real world. What an amazing movie...and wild ride.
I loved the scene in which the caller expressed the truth about Truman being held captive in this make-believe world, not knowing reality. She was ridiculed as being part of "the vocal minority". Yet, when Truman finally found freedom, the entire world rejoiced with him.
The adoption industry speaks against adoptees & original mothers who refuse to be silent about unethical practices and sealed records, calling them "the vocal minority",
We, however, must continue to speak the truth...because as more and more states pass adoptee access legislation, the entire nation will rejoice.
The Truman Show had a sick cult following that society accepted for far too long...even when its most devoted fans secretly wished and cheered for Truman to break free of his all too perfectly (amended) existence...into realness.
I pray for the day all of society cheers as adoptees everywhere have the same right as every other American citizen...to access our original, unfalsified birth certificates, identities, and reality.