June 1, 2007
My Biggest and Baddest
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Pet-Peeve: When others "touched" by adoption (or not) use black and white language and overly simplistic rationalization to "explain" why they view some adoptees as "angry and bitter" - because they supposedly had a "bad experience" in adoption - SO NOT TRUE.
Adoptees can have a truly wonderful experience and family, or just a downright "NORMAL" (whatever that is) family environment - AND STILL NEED TO GRIEVE their losses in adoption. Adoption is based on LOSS - no matter how badly some people want to ignore it. LOSS is LOSS.
Truely healthy individuals will not ignore or deny this reality. To become whole, it must be validated, acknowledged, and greived - there is a continual onslaught of those who try to quiet and marginalize adoptees who face reality in this world of adoption.
Labels: adoptee issues