The Truman Show or Adoptee Island?

I saw this movie several years ago before I realized the impact adoption had on my life. If that could be imagined. The scene about him being "the first baby legally adopted by a corporation" just flew right by me without notice...I do have to admit, though, that the movie creeped me out in a weird way, a way in which I just couldn't put my finger on...but thought about for days.

Well, I happened to be flipping channels today and came across it again...only got to watch the last hour, but was completely mortified and intrigued. This is THE movie of the adoptee.

Truman had to WAKE UP just like every adopted individual and realize that there was more to his life, identity, and world than just his "role". Adoptee's very birth certificates are sealed and amended to create an entire new role, identity and cast for our lives. We are expected to live by that man-made role and told (just like Truman) that it is BEST for us, so not to rock the boat...just what he did.

It feels like the monumental struggle of our lives to cross over that bridge (of truth) and face the raging ocean head on, to freedom...to wake up & find that all we thought was real, isn't...that we are so much more than our orchestrated existence in our adopted role...

When Truman hit the "horizon" with a thud...my heart ached. Seeing his complete despair and hopelessness over being held "in the dark" for so long, regarding his entire identity and reality, was heart-breaking.

I think every adoptee eventually hits that same wall. We have to courageously climb those steps into the unknown and confront the corporation...adoption...to somehow find our true identity, grief, and integration into the real world. What an amazing movie...and wild ride.

I loved the scene in which the caller expressed the truth about Truman being held captive in this make-believe world, not knowing reality. She was ridiculed as being part of "the vocal minority". Yet, when Truman finally found freedom, the entire world rejoiced with him.

The adoption industry speaks against adoptees & original mothers who refuse to be silent about unethical practices and sealed records, calling them "the vocal minority",

We, however, must continue to speak the truth...because as more and more states pass adoptee access legislation, the entire nation will rejoice.

The Truman Show had a sick cult following that society accepted for far too long...even when its most devoted fans secretly wished and cheered for Truman to break free of his all too perfectly (amended) existence...into realness.

I pray for the day all of society cheers as adoptees everywhere have the same right as every other American citizen...to access our original, unfalsified birth certificates, identities, and reality.

Adoptees are Commodities

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Why is it legal for human beings to be the commodity in a "family building" business of supply & demand? Why is it legal for adoption "professionals" and the general public to "advertise" or "market" for human beings on the internet or in general media? (Dear Birthmother letters, "profiles", etc.)

Think about it. The intentional solicitation of babies and children is not ethical. The money (billions per year) involved in the adoption "process" sets the entire "system" up for corruption.  Someone is profiting.  Why would our society rejoice in making MORE children "available" for adoption, rather than work to prevent its need? 

As an adult adoptee it truly feels like we are simply commodities hastened to fill the needs of those who want to build a family, instead of our feelings and rights being respected, as those who lose our original identities, names, mothers, families, heritage, and place. The "closed records" concept is a violation of all that we are as human beings.

The movie "The Truman Show" is not a fantasy thriller, it is a true depiction of the lives of adoptees everywhere. He wakes up one day to find out the life he is living is a fabricated set-up, with actors and players, and he is the only one who was not aware or given the choice to be a part of the "set".

Adopted children have to adjust in order to survive. But once they become adults, the only way they can truly embrace their lives, their identities, their families - the only way they can truly love - is to become real. And unless they can know, grieve, exist, and truly produce in their God-given identity on this earth - they live forever frozen in a time warp of man-made reality without the freedom of existing in their own skin and humanness.

Adult adoptees - the ones no one wants to believe - are the true voices in adoption. Although "sealed records" in adoption attempts to silence us as "perpetual children" under the law, no amended birth certificate can erase truth.

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