March 10, 2011
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In "I Think! I Act! Transforming the Thoughts of the Traumatized Adoptee is Essential!", Arleta James makes a valid point regarding the disenfranchised grief that many adoptees carry their entire lives.
However, telling a child that their adoption, "is not about them" because their mother "did not want to be a mother" is a good example of how adoptees must grieve not only their loss, but also the "narratives" told to them about their adoption, along with expectations they face from others of how to think and feel.
Many times (especially after search & reunion) adoptees find out the "facts" they have believed about their adoption from a young age weren't entirely true. This can happen even in supposedly "open" adoptions.
Adoption is rampant with “conflict of interest” issues, due to the fact the adoption industry is driven by the the same economic principles of supply & demand as any other "business". Falsifying and amending the very birth certificates of human-beings is just the beginning, forcing adoptees to live a very complicated reality.
Labels: adoptee issues